Finding Strength in Simplicity: Why ‘Adulting’ Matters More Than Ever
Have you ever found yourself Googling something that felt like you should already know how to do? Maybe it was how to iron a shirt properly, cook a healthy dinner, or even manage your time better?
If so, you’re not alone. In fact, these kinds of searches are trending across the internet. And far from being a sign that we’re not coping, they’re a signal that we’re seeking growth, structure and clarity in a busy, noisy world.
It’s not always about the task itself—it’s about what it represents: a desire to feel more capable, confident and in control.
This month, I want to explore how the small, practical life skills we often take for granted are deeply linked to our mental and emotional wellbeing. You may be surprised at how these “simple” things are anything but.
Why “Adulting” Feels So Hard – And Why That’s Okay
Life has changed so much over the past few decades. Generations ago, many life skills were handed down from parents, grandparents or taught in schools. Today, that’s often not the case.
Instead, we’re navigating adulthood while juggling work, relationships, responsibilities—and often with little guidance on the basics. It’s no wonder that many of us feel like we’re constantly playing catch-up.
Here’s the important bit: struggling with life skills doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re learning.
And learning is something we’re all doing, all the time.
So, if you feel overwhelmed by the idea of meal planning, budgeting, or setting healthy boundaries, know that you’re in good company—and that there’s nothing “less than” about needing support in these areas.
The Link Between Life Skills and Mental Health
You might wonder what folding laundry or planning your week has to do with emotional wellbeing. The answer? Everything.
Here’s how developing life skills supports positive mental health:
✔ Predictability lowers anxiety – Creating a routine gives your brain a sense of safety and structure.
✔ Capability boosts confidence – When you complete tasks (no matter how small), your self-esteem quietly grows.
✔ Organisation reduces overwhelm – Breaking life into manageable pieces makes the chaos feel less consuming.
✔ Boundaries protect your energy – Learning to say no, or to communicate clearly, helps prevent burnout and resentment.
So, while it might feel small to prep your meals or make your bed, these acts are powerful tools for self-care.
A Mindful Practice for the Month Ahead
Try this: The “Done” List Journal
Rather than writing a long to-do list each morning, try keeping a simple “done” list in the evening.
At the end of each day, jot down three things you managed to complete—no matter how big or small.
Examples:
Answered a message I’d been putting off
Took a proper lunch break
Asked for help instead of bottling things up
This simple practice builds self-trust and helps shift your focus from what’s undone to what you’re achieving—even on the harder days.
Gentle Reflections
Take a moment this week to ask yourself:
Am I expecting myself to “just know” how to do everything perfectly?
What’s one life skill I can gently learn or practise without judgement?
Where could I let go of guilt and simply ask for support?
These aren’t just questions—they’re invitations to be kinder to yourself, and to see learning as a lifelong process, not a destination.
Please remember: life doesn’t come with a manual. And you’re not expected to have it all figured out. Whether you’re thriving, surviving, or somewhere in between—you’re showing up, and that’s more than enough.
Learning how to manage your life is a form of self-love. It’s also one of the most empowering things you can do for your long-term mental wellbeing.
This month, embrace the simple wins. Celebrate the small steps and remember you’re doing better than you think.
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